Happy New Year!
Every year, the same conversation crops up — the infamous R-word and its seemingly inevitable futility — that expectation that “The new year will be different.”
I’m all for resolutions and goal-setting (a bit overly optimistic in the past, admittedly), but let me say one thing: To expect that by default, all of a sudden, because the calendar has finished a year and it’s now 2013, things will somehow be different and better than they ever have been is a lazy man’s way out of taking responsibility for his own life.
The first of January is no different from any other day of the year — it’s almost completely arbitrary, in the grand scheme of things, so in order to expect something to change, we must instigate that change ourselves. (You cannot expect to transform overnight simply because the clock says so!)
Change only happens when WE change, and as a determined “changer” myself (aren’t you?), I’m reshaping my resolutions for this year.
Instead of just writing down a list of what I’d like to change in this new year, I’m going to structure each resolution out into action steps to tackle every month.
Quick aside — if you’re looking for a PHENOMENAL read on self-development, check out The Charge by Brendon Burchard. I finished reading it a few days ago, and I think it has changed my life! At first, I thought it might be kind of boring — its tagline is pretty much “how to feel alive” — but I felt my energy picking up as I read it and soon could not put it down. Its focus is on fulfillment in our lives and creating a sustainable, high level of energy every day. I can already see myself rereading this book for all my foreseeable future!
Anyway, Brendon apparently sets a goal for each month. A goal increases its likeliness of being accomplished when it’s broken down into manageable steps — so why not approach resolutions as exactly that, goals to accomplish during the year, rather than abstract, and unreachable, ideals?
For example (and I only use this because it’s so common), instead of resolving to “lose weight,” pinpoint exactly how much weight you’d like to lose, and write out an action plan: hire a trainer or invest in a fitness program or class, and schedule it in. Tweak your diet with sustainable, healthy changes that you can implement today (and no, don’t set yourself up for instant failure by having that “last hurrah” order of fries — what kind of message are you sending to celebrate a healthy lifestyle by kicking it off that way?), and map out your schedule week by week, month by month . . . and track your progress.
Speaking of which, Anthony and I reached a decision last night about our eating habits. Check it out here —
I’ve always attempted to write out my resolutions in the different areas of my life: health/fitness, spirituality, relationships, finances, personal development, career. It’s a lot to bite off simultaneously, but life is all about balance.
Without further ado, I’ll set out my intentions now. Writing down your goals increases the probability of success just that much more, because now they seem much more tangible. There’s a clarity in writing things down, particularly when you plot them out in detail. I haven’t planned everything out yet (this could be a project for tomorrow), but it all starts with the overlying objective . . .
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT. Reading: finish a book a week, alternating nonfiction and fiction. (Exceptions on the week deadline may be made for lengthier texts.) Leaders are readers, after all!
Also, keep a journal.
HEALTH. Exercise: strength training and cardio (alternating) 6 days/week. Continue personal training with Debbie. Eliminate eating out January and February, per the previous video, and then limit to once a week.
SPIRITUALITY. Gratitude. I’m going to do this awesome idea I got from a Facebook connection:
Be present. Finish reading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, experiment with meditation. No phones during social time, especially meals.
FINANCES. Increase income and investments by implementing strategies learned at the Millionaire Mind Intensive. Track finances with tools like Quicken or Mint.com. I am a money magnet, thank you, thank you, thank you!
RELATIONSHIPS. Grow and strengthen bond with Anthony with compromise, love, and mutual respect. Finish reading Wabi Sabi Love together. Regularly see close friends at least once to twice a week, write letters/e-mails at least once a month to good friends far away.
By the way, last Friday, we got our guinea pigs a new little brother. Meet Philip, our sable Holland lop! He is so adorable!!!
Continue to bond with and care for our beautiful critters, keeping them happy and healthy. Litter train Philip, get him neutered, and gradually train him to be a house bunny.
CAREER. Writing: finish my memoirs by end of March(!!), finish my fiction piece. Attend 2013 Writers Institute conference at UW-Madison. Continue to blog at least 3x/week on here, 1-2x on my parents’ restaurant blog, and regularly (at least once a week) on my jewelry biz blog. Qualify as a designer sometime this year. Maintain perfect attendance at training, and focus on independent training 2x/week.
GENERAL WELL-BEING. Daily hypnosis (soooo relaxing), regular tapping (EFT), keep living space organized, clean, and tidy. Try a new recipe (Rouxbe or otherwise) a week.
What will 2013 bring for you this year? I can’t wait!
To our healing,