I don’t want to end last week without acknowledging one of the most heartbreaking tragedies of our times that occurred. I was very upset on Thursday and was thisclose to writing a post on my thoughts on the Sandy Hook shootings in Connecticut. It may have been too soon, though, and may still be, especially for those who were directly affected by loss or injury in the incident.
Of course, it was an absolutely unthinkable crime that no one could possibly begin to understand. I promptly removed myself from social and conventional media the day of the shootings, which includes, of course, my own blogs. This was because I was too frustrated by the reactions to what happened, and I didn’t want to make enemies during a time of crisis.
But today, Katie Freiling sounded off on her thoughts on the subject, and I found her oration to be perfectly delivered. Instead of communicating what can be a controversial opinion in an accusatory or frustrated way like I would have, she opened up in a vulnerable and genuine way that I really respect. Here it is:
If each and every one of us were treated with love, compassion, acceptance, kindness, incidences like this would greatly diminish. Don’t let these innocents’ lives be spent for nothing but sadness. Let this remind you to go forth in love, not condemnation. Not blame. For when we turn our words into weapons by spreading hatred, judgment, or blame into the world, we are committing the exact same crime that we condemn.
At every turn, we are given a choice: to go the path of love, or the path of hate. Remember Martin Luther King, Jr.’s wise words:
I admit, I kept quiet when a stirring of spiritual change churned inside of me, because I didn’t want to be attacked for an opinion that may not be popular. However, stepping back gave me the opportunity to see how others (e.g., Katie Freiling) could do what I didn’t with grace. I am working on containing the fire within me, as you cannot fight fire with fire without disastrous consequences, either.
What I want you to take away from this post is that regardless of political policies, we can put forth positive change by being the change we want to see. Don’t for a minute believe that I am condoning in any way what happened. I just want to acknowledge that we are never privy to the story behind anybody’s plight, and to remind everyone that “hurt people hurt people.”
That said . . . let’s take a moment to send our love to Connecticut during this somber time.
To our healing,