Believe it or not, after those six posts from November that were supposed to be more like 25-30(!), I’m back, and feeling better than I have in a long while.
So as you know, I got sick a week before my birthday (which I also wanted to post something on, but didn’t). I’m not using my cold as an excuse for not following through on my Call-to Action month, but at the same time, I’m not beating myself up for it. Ultimately, I’m choosing to take all the stuff that happened last month in as a lesson. (We should always come out of any challenge or upset by asking what we can take away from it.)
You may also know that I follow a lot of inspiring entrepreneurs, speakers, and trainers. I do so to keep myself motivated to always be working on me and to better my life and my health, to keep on track. This past weekend, right at the turn of the month, I took my boyfriend Anthony to a life-changing seminar called the Millionaire Mind Intensive (or MMI). It blew me away, lifted me up, and hurtled me into what feels like the next phase of my life. (This is a VERY good thing.) Not only did it open my eyes to just how much I was living life blind before — but it brought Anthony and me much closer.
(If you think money is something to be ignored, or that love is the only thing you need to sustain a partnership — go to the seminar.)
|The only pic I have from the event — that’s Anthony and I at the very left — if you’re in this pic and you want me to take it down, please let me know!|
Then, yesterday I was tossed back into the normal world, which was sort of a buzz kill. It was one of the strangest days I’ve ever had, not entirely in the worst or best sense, but I guess it was just sort of weird to have myself challenged and lifted up in the three-day intensive and then suddenly find myself out in the regular world. People still stuck in similar mentalities to my own just a few days ago seemed far away, like I had completely forgotten all that negativity and limited thinking/complaining lifetimes ago.
Then, one of my favorite spiritual entrepreneur-leaders, Katie Freiling, whom I actually had the privilege to meet last year at the Unstoppable Entrepreneur conference in San Diego, announced a 30-day challenge of her own because she’d been so inspired at a seminar she had attended this same weekend! (Katie, by the way, is how I originally found Marie Forleo, and you know I talk about her all the time.)
|Katie Freiling and me at the pre-conference welcome party 🙂 Thanks for the introduction from my friend JC!|
Not only is Katie engaging in her own 30-day challenge to make at least one video a day every day, but it got me thinking. What kinds of life-changing habits am I going to implement from now on? After the MMI, I have a 90-day challenge workbook to work on, but that’s private stuff. Out of respect for the material that Peak Potentials (the company that puts on the seminar), I’m not going to publicly share what we learned last weekend in specific. So what can I do otherwise that can be publicly announced?
I also know that so far, besides “writing semi-regularly,” on this blog I often say I’m going to start doing (blank) but then almost always inevitably stop after a while.
I’ll also say that — ironically — after this amazing experience, I had a $100 bill stolen from my wallet this weekend, and while that sucks, I was less angry at someone stealing the money from me (I will always earn it back, obviously) and more annoyed at the fact that the person who stole it was most likely a fellow attendee of the seminar. This pissed me off because not only was the seminar amazingly uplifting, but one of the concepts we discussed repeatedly was that of INTEGRITY.
Integrity is more than just honesty. Integrity is about wholeness, and about upholding what you stand for even if you never said it out loud. For example, if you and I are friends, there is an unspoken expectation that I will be loyal and there for you, and vice-versa. If one of us betrays the other or blows the other off, that is a violation of integrity. If what you do does not support what you say and believe, you are not acting in entirety.
Which is why, when you enter a seminar about how to transform yourself into an honest and spiritual moneymaker, it is only in your integrity to, uh, NOT steal from your neighbor.
That said, my point is this: From this point on, you have full permission to kick my butt if you see me acting against my own word. Life is all about balance — while you should hold yourself to a high standard, you also shouldn’t be so hard on yourself that you end up hating yourself. Approach everything from a peaceful place of love and compassion rather than of judgment and condemnation — so . . . no, November absolutely did not unfold the way I had planned. I’m not excusing myself with “Oh, I got sick” or anything else like that. But I am also not going to curl up into a ball of shame thinking I suck or that I have no business blogging.
I was disappointed, too, because November happened to also be NaNoWriMo, or National Novel Writing Month, which I was soooo excited for and pumped for, but also didn’t do much of. I’ve been working on a story I started in 2008 (separate from my memoirs) that I am eager to finish, so I wanted to use last month as the time to finally do it. However, we all know how difficult it can be to consistently practice new habits. We are conditioned to do what we already know: “Better the devil I know than the devil I don’t know” goes the saying, right?
Speaking of NaNoWriMo, I’m also a bit upset because it turns out that this nonprofit is severely short on funding this year around, and it might not come back next year. (This makes me want to give them the $400,000 they’re short of in one fell swoop as soon as I make my first million off what I learned last weekend. :P) Lesson? Now is always the time to act. Just do it, and you won’t lose out on opportunities.
So I’m going to have to turn another 30-day period into my personal NoWriMo. I thought it might be this month, but what with my 90-day challenge from the MMI (and I definitely don’t want to lose the momentum I built last weekend) and the other things I’ve got going on, I’m just not sure I should stretch myself thin to squeeze it all in on a daily basis.
Here’s an experiment, then. I’d like to write a post at least three days a week for the blog: one on food, one on exercise, and one video OR post on whatever I want for the rest of December. This is a loose structure, and purposely so, because if Katie Freiling taught me anything today it’s that we do our best, most creative work, through letting go and just doing it.
Instead of doing it every single day and overcommitting (there are sometimes those days where just so much stuff happens and I hardly have time to eat, let alone sit down and write!), you’ll have me here, three times a week. Sometimes more, I’m sure, but getting myself on a roll is the point.
I want you to benefit from this too, so if you have any goals to implement for yourself in the next month, please let me know with a comment on here or Facebook. I support you! We can keep each other accountable!
PS. I feel like I should include some relevant links to complement the post, so here are a few:
Katie Freiling — for some awesome inspiration for life and business
Kyle Cease — this is the guy that changed Katie’s life, and I watched him for, like, two hours today. He is amazing!
Millionaire Mind Intensive — they take place all over the world and you need to get your butt to one!
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind — read this before you go — not kidding.
NaNoWriMo — for more information about the nonprofit
NaNoWriMo — if you’d like to make a tax-deductible donation to the cause!
To our healing,