Here I am. I wasn’t about to disappear after my long-winded declaration of work ethic, was I?
I admit the new format of the blog is going to be fairly challenging. I may end up abandoning the “assigned weekly topics” thing if it proves too reminiscent of school and/or puts a plague of writer’s block upon my house.
But in any case, I’ll have to try.
A fantastic tool when it comes to self-awareness and making sure you’re exercising it is our social mirrors, or close friends and family. I’ve always believed that the people we choose to keep close to us are a good proponent of our own traits and qualities, be they strengths or defects. Especially with friends and partners, we often resonate on certain levels with others based on what we have in common.
And sometimes what we have in common is what’s “wrong” with us, like our propensity to plan our time poorly, be disrespectful or abusive to others, or whatever else. If you’re wise, you will have cut back on exposure to those folks; I surely have through time, and it’s nice to feel liberated from “having an excuse” to get away with what I was never so proud of to begin with. This is called de-toxing, and it serves us to do it once in a while.
Let’s take a look at those friends of ours who enhance our lives, who share more beautiful traits with us. It’s likely these friends enjoy your company just as much as you do theirs, and that even if they do see where you may be flawed, they don’t mind because they love you.
Not only are these friends or loved ones a great complement to your social life and your personal support system — most especially during your period of healing and recovery — but they’re also the most apt to being the most honest with you when you decide to ask them to be candid about what you perceive to be your problems.
I’ve found it helps to be very observant of others’ behavior and reactions to the way you are and ask questions about it to those who care about you, whether or not they’re the ones who’ve reacted to you or not. For instance, if you notice that people are impatient with you because you take longer to get from point A to B, you might want to ask a good friend what you can do or say to make the situation better.
Your friend might tell you something you hadn’t considered before, like, “You should make it clear to so-and-so that you need more time because you simply can’t go faster yet.” Perhaps you had been overly proud to admit it in the past and now it creates this issue.
That’s an oversimplified example, but I think you know what I mean.
Our good friends and loved ones will often be the most honest with us and are often an excellent gauge for where we’re missing something crucial.
Don’t hesitate to turn to them to keep you more aware of how you treat yourself and others during this time of recuperation.
To our healing,